Build More Rewarding Friendships

Questions & Answers about your Friends

Q:        I’m guessing that some types make better friends than others?

A:        It’s not that simple.  More that some types fit better with other types in friendship.  If you know the types, you can add whatever’s missing

Q:        I’m also guessing that friends would help me understand the types?

A:        Yes!  Don’t keep the 12 Type Enneagram a secret.  It’s often others who tell us what type we are.  Of course we can do the same for others

You can use the Enneagram to understand what is necessary in friendships; if you are puzzled as to why a friendship ended;  or why you do not click with certain people.

Use the 6 type energies to understand what every friendship needs:

  • Lunar type – beginning.  Two people meet and want to become friends
  • Venus type – emotion.  You both need to feel something for the friendship
  • Mercury type – organising.  Effort needs to be made to meet.  To stay in contact
  • Saturn type – deeper meaning.  What holds the friendship together?
  • Mars type – increased power.  Unit bigger than two singles.  Both sacrifice for good of friendship
  • Jupiter type – benevolence.  Wanting the other to be happy.  To feel supported.  Valued

Now examine your present and past friendships.

Do or did they have all these elements?  Which ones are/were missing?
If the friendship is now, can you add what’s missing?

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Matthew Campling

Matthew Campling

Your 12 Type Enneagram host is London psychotherapist and author Matthew Campling. Matthew has written the first EVER book on this wonderful system ‘The 12 Type Enneagram: Know Your Type: Improve Your Life’ Published by and available from Watkins, selected bookshops and Internet suppliers including

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